I noticed a lot of unloading and setup being done on Friday, when I pulled into the neighborhood after work. The location of the house made it a lot more noticeable. The next morning, a giant tent was being erected which covered most of the driveway. I’d estimate the dimensions at 40×20. Tables were being unloaded which covered the driveway.
The next day (Sunday) was obviously party day. There were table linens going on the tables, the sort which you would normally find at a wedding. There were giant inflatable toys being set up in the backyard, the kind which kids can actually go into and jump around. There was a valet service which was preparing to park cars for guests.
Later on, the party was in full swing. I swear, we weren’t spying, it was just impossible not to pass this house when pulling in or out of the neighborhood. Cars were lined up on both sides of the street, making for a dangerous game of chicken if one car was leaving and another was entering. The guests had arrived, and the gift tables (yes, plural) had piles of gifts so high you couldn’t actually see the guests. The caterers were off to one side getting the food ready.
I’ve seen the kids in this house, and I don’t think they’re old. My wife even speculated that this could be a first birthday party. I hope that wasn’t the case. At least, if there was a party that big, I’d hope that it would be for a kid that would at least be able to remember it. Even so, I have never seen such an event for a child of ANY age.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m all for celebrating birthdays. I had parties at my house growing up until I was a teenager. Family and friends were invited and it was a good time. But, the tables were set up in the basement and on the backyard patio. We played on the lawn with whatever toys were brought over or found in the garage. My mom did all the cooking with the possible exception of a cake being bought from a bakery. People parked their own cars.
And the thing about it, is that I had a great time. I didn’t need any more than that. I wonder if the parents are doing it for the kid or if it’s for themselves.
I also think this could be teaching the kid some bad personal finance lessons, which could hurt later in life. For example:
- He/she might expect such a party every year. Or better. What if the parents can’t afford it one year? What about when the kid gets too old to get two tables worth of gifts? I think this could set the stage for feelings of entitlement, which is never a good lesson to teach children.
- He/she might learn the lesson that spending money equals happiness. The parents were trying to create a happy time, but if you have to go overboard to do so, that could become the standard. This could create that mindset, and if it’s plugged in at a young age, that could lead to trouble.
- It can create a pattern of jealousy. Assuming that friends of the birthday celebrant were invited, there could be feelings of jealousy, and that the things that go along with that generally only get stronger as one grows up.
I’m not trying to be a party pooper. I think kids birthday parties are great, and look forward to throwing them for my kids should we be blessed to have kids in the future. I really do think, though, that there are better ways to celebrate that might not teach your kids the wrong things about celebrating at an early age:
- Backyard or basement parties
- Pool parties
- Pizza parties
- Sporting event parties
These are fun, and plus I think kids enjoy them!
So, when is a kid’s birthday party too much?