I read a post by Eliza at Happy Simple Life and it absolutely made my day. She talked about her ‘happy file' that she started years ago. Whenever she gets a thank you note or a nice message from a friend or something else that expresses a positive thought from someone else, she puts in her file. She's been doing it for years and her file is getting full!
I have never done this, and I imagine most people haven't, but I have to say that I think it's a pretty amazing idea. Think about it. Anytime you get discouraged or overwhelmed or when you start feeling sorry for yourself or feeling like you're unappreciated or maybe even under qualified, guess what? You have a whole bunch of history that can tell you otherwise.
I can't imagine any better way to pull you out of a funk than looking back and seeing the different messages that have come your way.
The Fourth Grade Gold Star
Feeling good about yourself is really important. Want an example of how I know? I can think back to my fourth grade class. If my math is right, that was around 32 years ago. I really liked my teacher and it was one of the better years of my elementary schooling.
Now here's a memory: One day, I was just killing it with everything goin my way. I answered questions right, I volunteered to do stuff around the class, I did really good on all the class work, and I didn't get into any trouble at all (a big thing for me back then if you can believe it *lol*). Long story short, I was just ‘on'.
At the end of the day, she put a little envelope on my desk and when I looked at it, she'd written a little note for me to take home to my parents. It was simple, and said that I had a great day in class today, and had a gold star.
That note, that one simple thing, became one of my prized possessions. Even years later, when I'd come across it, the amount of pride I felt was awesome.
As I'm pretty sure I still have it, I know that if I were to pull it out, that it would still make me feel good, 32 years later.
So just imagine how great a whole bunch of those would make you feel.
Side note: I often wonder if I truly did realize that I was having a good day, or if the positive experience of the note re-shaped my memory over time. It's funny how the mind works. Either way, it ended up being a great day.
Readers, do you do anything like Eliza to keep track of the positive experiences? Does this hold whether it be at work or with friends or with love? Please share your thoughts in the comments below.