Are You Doing The Right Thing The Wrong Way?

Are You Doing The Right Thing The Wrong Way?

For years, I’ve undertaken a strategy to make sure that I was getting enough water.

For years, I was doing it the wrong way.

At work, I have a cup that I keep at my desk that gets filled from a container that I keep in the fridge.  I like cold water, so I pour water from the container in the fridge into my cup, then fill the other container and allow it cool off.  Both containers held about 2.5 cups of water, so if I drank three containers worth per day, I was getting a good intake of water.

mb-201309waterThis seemed to be working, until one day I realized that I was going about the right idea (staying hydrated) the wrong way.

What was wrong?

What I was doing was drinking a majority of the water in the morning.  I’d often be done with all three fill-ups by the time I finished lunch.

I had always heard that your body adapted to how you drank water and just figured that timing didn’t matter.  But, one day when I stopped to think about it, I realized that there were clues that I was not drinking water the right way:

  1. I was going to the bathroom too much in the morning – The old rule is that what comes in must come out, so when I looked at the number of times I was getting up for quick bathroom breaks, I realized it was too much
  2. I was getting up in the middle of the night – This is what really clued me in. I realized that I was waking up in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom, at least once, often twice.  When I looked at it further, I realized that I was drinking at least a cup or two of water in the evening, presumably because all the water I drank in the morning had already been processed, and my body wanted more.

Once I realized this, I changed my habits.  I still drink the same amount of water during the day, but I spread it out, so that by lunch, I’m only about 50-60% of the way through the three fill-ups, and I’m drinking water until I leave for the day.

This spreads out my water intake, and keeps me hydrated longer.  After making this conscious switch, I realized that I was getting up a lot less in the middle of the night because I didn’t drink as much water in the evening.

There you have it, an example of doing the right thing, but doing it the wrong way.

This happens with money more than you think.

Since this is a personal finance blog, let’s take a look at how this principle can be applied to money.  It’s easier than you think.  Just look at some of these tenets of good personal finance, and let’s think about how a good idea could be executed poorly:

  • Budgeting – Creating a budget is a great idea as it allows you to track and allocate your money, but if you don’t track things properly, you miss certain categories, or you allocate funds improperly, you could come out no further ahead than before you started budgeting.
  • Investing – It’s pretty much a standard that as you’re working, you should be investing money for retirement.  This is a great idea overall, but if you invest the wrong way (not checking the fees of your investments, not having a proper asset allocation, taking too much risk, or taking too little risk), you could be disappointed in your returns.
  • Saving – Whether it be for an emergency fund, a home improvement, or a dream vacation, saving money is always good, right?  Well, not if you don’t look at it in the big picture.  If you’re stashing money aside but only paying the minimums on your credit card balance, you could be doing more harm than good.
  • I’m sure that the list goes on….

So why do we get ourselves in these situations?

Some of the potential mistakes I outlined above seem like no brainers, just like it probably seems obvious to many readers that drinking a ton of water for a few hours of the day and not drinking much after isn’t the best idea, but it’s not always that easy.  Why do we do these things?

  • Mis-information – As I noted above, I had read somewhere that your body would adjust to your water intake.  There’s a good chance I read that out of context or maybe from a source that was just flying off the cuff, but I took at as truth and planted the seed in my mind that allowed it to be truth.  If someone you know gives you a piece of money advice that worked for them, you may accept it as truth, even if it’s not the best idea for you.
  • Habit – Once you start doing something and keep doing it, the process becomes habit.  That can work in your favor as you try to establish an exercise routine, but if you get in a bad money habit, it can work against you.  It may seem perfectly normal to spend $200 on dining out a month simply because you’ve done it for so long, but if you’re busting your budget and can’t figure out why, there’s a good chance that you have a habit or two that you’re not considering that could be affected.

And how do you get out?

If you’re doing a good thing the wrong way, chances are the fix may not be obvious.

  • Don’t give up – If your budget isn’t working, it’s very tempting to just quit the process, figuring that it’s not working anyways, so why bother?  Don’t give up.
  • Look for the root cause – In the case of my water intake, the problem that I wanted to solve (getting up in the middle of the night too much) led to the discovery that I was drinking water incorrectly, and it took going back a few layers to really identify the problem.  Chances are your budget isn’t the problem, but a spending habit within your budget.  You have to be willing to dive a little bit deeper.
  • Ask for help – There are people out there willing to help.  If you can’t figure out why you can’t get your investments working the right way for you, then it could be time to ask for help.  Ask around to someone you trust if they can help or give you a referral.
  • Think outside your comfort zone – Many people would never think about hiring an investment professional because they think they can do it themselves or are unwilling to spend the money.  What they might need to realize is that the cost can be made up quickly if a problem is solved.  A $200 fee for an adviser seems high, but if you increase your returns by $1,000 as a result, then suddenly it turned into a pretty good investment, didn’t it?

Finding out that you’re doing something good, but doing it incorrectly, can be an enlightening experience, but it’s worthwhile to fix and chances are will make a big difference in your life.  For me, fixing my hydration process has resulted in much better and more restful sleep.

Readers, what are your experiences (money or otherwise) with doing something right, but doing it wrong?

16 thoughts on “Are You Doing The Right Thing The Wrong Way?”

  1. We used to budget, but never do any kind of “post mortem” to analyze how we did, and adjust accordingly. We’d typically overspend for a few weeks in a row, then realize “crap, we’re out of money.” We’ve learned that each week we have to sit down and adjust the budget if we went over during the preceding weekend. Once we did that, we got rid of that “too much month left at the end of our money” problem.

  2. Really enjoyable post, I like that you brought a unique perspective; that can be hard to find in the blogosphere.

    I believe that THINKING about the things you never actually think about can be a great way to lifehack.

  3. Good post. I like that you point out that habit is something that can lead to doing things the wrong way. Something else tied to habit that bites a lot of people is grey charges on their credit card. They sign up for a “free trial” not realizing that they need to cancel the trial before the trial period is up, else their credit card will get charged. A lot of people don’t notice these charges on their credit card because they are in the habit of using whatever they signed up for, but they can sure add up.

  4. I am constantly monitoring my progress and decisions. I also reflect on them to learn from mistakes or failures. I used to drink 3-4 liter s of water a day! I now taper ff after 7 or 8 PM to avoid waking up too often.

  5. It can make sense to examine how you are doing things. As you point out, if you’re doing the right thing in the wrong way then you won’t really get the full benefit of doing the right thing. Although no examples come immediately to mind I’m sure I’ve made the same mistake before.

  6. One thing I did right, but in a wrong way is when we first started budgeting. I had a great, perfect budget that included all our necessities, goals and splurges. Just I forgot one thing, I had never actually sat and worked out to see where our money went before I did my budget. So even though we started tracking after the fact, it was too difficult, felt like a real deprivation. I took us giving up the budget for 3 months and jsut tracking to understand where we were spending money and THEN do a budget that tweaked only one thing at a time to get it right. Took us a good 18 months-2 yrs though.

    • Creating a budget when you don’t have one is a long process. I can see how it would easily take that long to go from ‘no budget’ to ‘running on all cylinders’ when you go through the proper steps. Glad you stuck with it!

  7. I was 18 when I started my first diet to lose weight – Atkins. Well, skipping out on carbs all of the time just made me moody and not happy. So I lost 10 pounds, dumped the stupid diet, and pretty much blew off my weight for like 9-10 years before trying again. Budgeting points in Weight Watchers means I can have everything I want – just in smaller portions. That works way better for me. Great post!

  8. I think it’s also important to be able to actually look at something and realize it’s nor working. For example, I know people who have a budget, but repeatedly overspend in certain categories. They don’t pause to think that something is amiss, they just keep budgeting and keep overspending.

  9. Excellent post. It shows you put a lot of thought behind this. I think for me, it would be initially letting my financial advisor take the reins and make suggestions on what to invest in and have no clue as to what the investments were. I was like an ostrich with my head in the sand, until a few years ago, I started to read up more on investing and would give my input as to where my money should go.

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