If you’ve read this blog for any length of time, you know that vacations and such are a very big thing for our family. We love to camp. An annual trip to an indoor water park is almost required. We’ve had a couple of great trips down to Florida. We have really come to notice how our family just works so well when we’re on the move. Over time, we have created many more memories through our travel than in many other areas of life.
Experiences Turn Into More Memories
After our last trip, we sat down and talked as a family. Even though our kids are young (7 and 5), we talked to them about our trip and how great it was. We also talked about how much vacations mean to us. Part of our discussion centered on how many things they remember from our various trips.
The kids got it right away. They started talking about trips that we’ve taken for as many years back as their young minds can remember. Remember that time at Disney? Oh yeah, and that one time at the water park!
It was really cool to watch.
Tossing Out The Idea Of A Trade Off
We talked to the kids and pointed out that trips seem to create more memories. They fully agreed. They got the point right away that even though they’ve had lots of cool gifts along the way, that they are harder to remember as time goes on. Ask them about a gift they got three years ago and they might remember it, but bring up a trip the same time, and they’ll definitely throw out some recollections.
That’s pretty cool.
So, we brought up the idea of, as a family, starting to cut back on gifts. We wouldn’t eliminate them altogether, but
instead of, for example, six gifts at Christmas, maybe we get three. The difference would be put aside so that we could make sure that we have the means to travel.
What do you think they said?
It was an enthusiastic YES!
Putting This Into Practice
Our kids birthdays are coming up in the next couple of months. We started talking about plans for their birthday, and our daughter (the five year old) brought up, without prompting, that she would be getting fewer gifts.
And she was 100% cool with it. She totally got it! That brought a warmth to our heart.
So, we’ll see how things go. The kids agreed. My wife and I even agreed with each other that we’d cut back. Our ten year anniversary is coming up this fall, and we already discussed instead of getting each other a bigger gift, which is something we’d been talking about, that maybe we would…..
…take a small trip instead.
Bet you saw that one coming?
Readers, how do you balance ‘stuff’ with ‘experiences’ in your household? Have you ever made an active and conscious trade-off as we’re putting out there? Please let me know your thoughts and experiences in the comments. Thanks so much for reading.