You Can Do It

Little Boy Beagle will be three in just over three months.  He learns new things all the time and tries something new every day.

A lot of the things he tries don’t always work, or even if they do work, they aren’t consistent.

As he works on conquering new things, he would take pride in an accomplishment, but if something didn’t go right, he would often get exasperated and say:

“I can’t do it.”

After hearing this more than a few times, I tried to turn it around.  If he would have a problem with something that I knew was within his realm of possibility, and he’d say he couldn’t do it, I’d go over and say

“You CAN do it”

and would then try to help him with whatever he was doing, showing him how to do it, working with him to get it, and encouraging him to try again on his own.

You Can Do It Lake Huron Beach Oscoda Trip 9-25-09 16
by stevendepolo, on Flickr

While not everything worked the next time he tried, after I started telling him that he CAN do it, I noticed that:

  • Many times, he would try more than once before giving up.
  • He said “I can’t do it” a lot less, even when he couldn’t.
  • He actually started telling others “You can do it” if he heard someone give up.

All of these things are pretty cool, and if a two and a half year old can get it, I think we can all learn that lesson.

If you fail at setting a budget, don’t just give up and say you can do it.  Tell yourself that you can do it and start over again.  And, as my son learned, don’t be afraid to ask for help.

Work at it hard enough, and soon you’ll not only be doing it where you once thought you couldn’t, but you’ll be the one providing encouragement and advice moving forward.

So, find something you think you can’t do.  Tell yourself “I can’t do it”.

Then stop and say: “I CAN do it”

Then, go give it a try.  You might just surprise yourself…

12 thoughts on “You Can Do It”

  1. We are dealing with this with my son right now. He is learning how to ride his bike (he’s 6) and he is having a hard time. Things usually come so easy to him and he’s struggling with the fact that he has to work on it. He wants to give up.

    We’ve been pushing him all week to keep trying to ride and he’s come a long way, but at first… it was very frustrating for everyone.

  2. It’s easy to find inspiration in our children. Despite the tantrums and a little too much sass at times, they are the very best thing in our lives. Inspiring post MB! Three is an awesome age.

  3. I’m right there with you, Beagle.. and often push my kids in the same fashion. I often push my kids to believe in themselves, telling them that those who do things my kids cannot do (play instruments, speak foreign languages, etc) don’t have any super powers. They are only human and worked on learning something new..

    • As long as it’s reasonably attainable. After all, I could tell myself to be positive about being able to wave my arms and fly, but the laws of physics will trump my positive thinking every time 🙂

  4. Great article. I am a big believer in the power of subconscious mind. We can achieve anything in life if we learn to program our subconscious to affirm positively about our goals daily.

    • Good point. Positive thinking lies deep and must be something we feel and believe, not just something we say.

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